The title says it all in this post, but I think it is so important. I think it is important to touch base on the fact that having a full-time job and a few small businesses on the side is NOT easy. Some people handle it better than others, but I am here to tell you, I struggle. Sometimes I lay in bed before I get up for work and debate on whether I really need my full-time job and just quit to focus on my side jobs. I also think sometimes that it is worth giving up my side jobs and focus more on my full-time job. Or I just want to sleep all the time. I know the struggles, you might have a different scenario than me, but here is mine:
I wake up at 5:30-6 a.m most mornings to start my day by trying to have some me time before I leave for work at 7:15 a.m. I may do some yoga, morning bible study, read, or just hang out with my critters. I then get ready for work around 6:30- let my dogs outside to pee by 7. I follow that by making my breakfast (if I make it at the house) and coffee, fill my water bottle and hop in the car on the way to start my shelter day. Most people think working at a shelter just consists of playing with animals all day long. I with that was all it was, but it is so much more than that. I am currently working on a post dedicated to my day in the life of a shelter worker. Anyways, I am scheduled to get off at 5, but it’s mostly 5:30 when I truly leave. I return home by 6 p.m. from there I let my dogs back outside, feed them, play with them for a little, then I shower. I basically have 1 ½ before I start feeling exhausted to try and do something I want to do (not including eat dinner). I choose to use this time for my business and spend some time with my kitties. I then get into bed by 9:30 at the latest and snuggle up with my significant other, or I pass out. That right there is my day in a nutshell. It’s long and I struggle to make time for what I want to do- but it is not impossible.
Here are some of the ways I stay motivated and the time I use to focus on all my side hustles:
I actually have an hour lunch break so I bring my laptop to work- yes we have Wi-Fi- I do what I can: research, type up some posts, work on my YL, etc. Sometimes I don’t get to use my full 1 of lunch and that is okay, I work when I can.
Sometimes I don’t use a lot of my morning for me time and I will actually finish up or write down some ideas that flow through my brain. Mornings are everything for me, that is when I have the most ideas.
Right before I decide it is time to go to sleep. Right now, it is fall time, so I can actually cuddle up and use my heated blanket and watch some t.v. or, I use the time to work on my hustles. No pain, no game. I don’t over exhaust myself, I just focus on what I can get done. Even if it is only one sentence, it is a sentence more than I had when I started.
Some days I have to repeatedly tell myself why I am doing what I am doing. I remind myself of my goals and the future I want. I remind myself that it doesn’t happen over night and I will struggle, but it will all be worth it.
I use a journal at night before I shut my light off. I brain dump what is going on in my head basically and get it all out on paper so I can sleep and have a fresh start in the morning. I also use it to target a to-do list for the next day.
Remember that working a full-time job doesn’t mean you have to come home and sit on the couch to relax when you get off, there are more ways to use your time and relax.
Set some deadlines for yourself, but do NOT beat yourself up over them if you don’t finish in that time frame. You are human. You will not hit every single deadline, but it is good to keep setting them so you can at least give yourself a pace to stay on.
- Example: I use my planner to schedule when/ what blog posts are going up and how many I try to get accomplished in a day. Sometimes I complete an entire weeks’ worth in one sitting and other times, I slack and don’t do any for a day.
Sleep when your body tells you, don’t over force yourself to stay up super late just before you won’t make a deadline. You can push your limits but don’t exhaust yourself. You WILL feel it the next day and personally, I can’t afford to be off my game from lack of sleep. I mess with lives here.
How exactly can I overcome the exhaustion?
Let’s be honest here, working long hours is tiring enough then you are coming home to force yourself to work even more. It doesn’t sound very appealing; I would rather just binge watch a Netflix show with my SO. I would rather take that extra hour of sleep then write a blog post because I am struggling with writer’s block. There are so many reason/ excuses as to why we want to keep that exhaustion momentum. I get it, I really do. I struggled with it for years and still do every once in awhile.
First thing is first, understand the type of exhaustion you are feeling: have you been over pushing your limits or tuckering yourself out? Have you missed your sleeping schedule and you are literally just tired? Do you have a brain block? Did you have a long day at work?
- If you are simply tired from changing up your sleep schedule than chances are you won’t be getting any good ideas because your mind needs some rest. Go to sleep.
- If you have a brain block, simple look back at some past notes, photos, research some ideas/ topics, don’t let that aspect stop you and make you think you have to just go to sleep because you’ve got no ideas. Or go lay on the couch and watch some tv just because you are out of ideas.
- Having a long day at work makes it so nice when (in my case) you come home and take a shower get all in your comfy clothes, it is easy to get on that lazy train. My number one rule: don’t sit or lay on the bed. Once I do that, I am done. It would take a lot for me to able to get up and do something. I also can’t sit in front of the t.v. it is a distraction for me and it enables me to become lazy and tired. Don’t do it. Come home, put on your comfy clothes and go fill your orders, or sit at your desk and do some work, or sit at your kitchen table. Just don’t sit somewhere extra comfy.
Now, what about that weekend you’re off or the day you are off from work and you are just down right tired to the bones?
- Let yourself wake up even if it throws you off your schedule.
- Do some stretches
- Take a shower
- Get dressed almost first thing in the morning
- Make your bed and stay off the couch
- Leave the t.v. off and spend some time bible studying or with your SO.
- Getcha that cup of coffee from starbucks or dunkin. It is important to treat yourself even on your bad days.
- Shoot drink an energy drink if you need to do just to finish up something. I can’t lie- I do drink those.
- Stay off your phone until you build up some momentum for the day/night. Don’t get sucked into to that social media.
My tired to the bone bad days are days like I am having right this second as I type this. Yes, that is my current mood. I changed my sleeping schedule and got home later than normal from work the night before and I feel the bagginess in my eyes, but here I am, typing away. It’s 5:15 p.m and I’m honestly thinking about my daily dose of Dunkin iced coffee. But what I really want, is to finish watching Jane the Virgin and sit in bed. However, I will not let myself. I am pushing myself to finish this because I know how good it will feel to know that I am overcoming the tiredness and the lazy feelings. Just know, that you can too.
Here I am, finalizing this even when feeling how I described above. You can do it. You just have to push through too. Have a little faith in yourself.